Simple Marriage
Small changes. Better relationships.
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The Map of Your Spouse vs. The Map of Yourself
I can read Pam pretty well right now. I can see when her threshold is lower than usual. When the caretaking has eaten into her margin and something small is…
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You Don’t Get to Rest on Identity
I am logging the miles. Slow, unglamorous, walk-breaks-in-July miles. I’m showing up through the caretaking season. Protecting the mornings. Staying steady for Pam. Holding my position in a house that…
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Slow Isn’t Behind
Some mornings I walk. Not because I planned to. Because the heat is already at 85% humidity before 7am, or the hydration isn’t where it should be, or the caretaking…
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Anxiety as a Pacer
Somewhere around mile three, the voice shows up. Not loud. Just persistent. How much further? And then, a few minutes later: Why does nothing feel like it’s changing? Same pace.…
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The Accumulation Nobody Sees
Four runs a week. Most of them easy, slow, unremarkable. I’m protecting the mornings when I can get them. Finding other windows when I can’t. The run is where I…
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You Can’t Borrow Tomorrow’s Fitness Today
Mile one of my last half marathon, I went out too fast. I knew it while I was doing it. I was in the group towards the front, the group…
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The Boring Work Is the Real Work
A running coach would hate how I described what this summer’s training plan is to a friend. “Just a lot of slow, boring, easy miles,” I said. Which is technically…
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Challenge Accepted. And Completed.
We did it! First run 8pm Thursday. Last run 4pm Saturday. 48 miles total. 110,000+ steps. 6,500+ calories burned. Somewhere around four to five hours of sleep each day, broken…
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Thursday is here – 4x4x48 starts today
Thursday Is Here 8pm. First four miles. The start of 48 hours that we’re genuinely not sure we can finish. Pam and I have been saying that out loud to…
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The Most Well-Read Unchanged Man in the Room
I need to tell you something I’m not proud of. There was a season — and it wasn’t short — where I was the most well-read unchanged man you’d ever…