Most marriage advice asks how to get
your spouse to change.
Simple Marriage asks a different question.

Small changes.
Better relationships.

One honest idea at a time.

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What Simple Marriage is

The question isn’t how to fix your marriage.
It’s who you’re becoming inside it.

Simple Marriage started as a blog in 2006. Everything that became Sexy Marriage Radio grew from here — the framework, the conversations, the conviction that one person deciding to grow changes everything around them. The podcast is winding down. The writing continues.

“The change almost never comes from getting your spouse to be different. It almost always comes from one person deciding to show up differently — without a guarantee, without a deal on the table.”

This is where Dr. Corey Allan writes about marriage, relationships, and what it means to lead yourself well in the relationships that matter most. It’s built on 20+ years of clinical work, the framework behind the Go First book, and the same honest approach that’s been here from the beginning.

The idea
Differentiation
A stronger, more defined sense of self makes a better marriage — not a weaker one.
The practice
Self-Validated Intimacy
Real closeness requires two people who can stand on their own — without needing the other’s approval to feel okay.
The move
Go First
The one who moves first — without conditions, without guarantees — is the one who changes the marriage.

The emails

Go first.
And watch what happens.

Weekly writing on marriage, relationships, and what it means to lead yourself well. Plus the Healthy Marriage Mini-Course and first notice when Go First is available in 2026.

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