The ideas in print.
Where to start.
Two books. One for where you are right now. One for where you’re headed. Both built on the same framework behind 775+ episodes and 20+ years of clinical work.
Naked Marriage
Available NowWhat if the problems you face in marriage aren’t meant to be solved — they’re meant to be lived through? And what if the key isn’t changing your spouse, but uncovering yourself?
“Because many people don’t understand what marriage is and could be, they hide from each other. To keep the peace, they continue the charades — each spouse reluctantly believing, ‘I guess this is just how it’s supposed to be.’”
Naked Marriage encourages you to find yourself and fully reveal yourself — so you and your marriage can become fully alive. A strong entry point for anyone ready to stop pretending and start building something real.
- Why honesty — not compatibility — is the foundation of a real marriage
- How to stop managing your spouse and start leading yourself
- What it means to be fully known and to fully know your partner
- The difference between a marriage that survives and one that’s fully alive
Go First: How One Person Can Change Every Relationship In Their Life
Coming 2026You know what needs to change. You just keep waiting for the other person to go first. This book is for the one who’s done waiting.
“Go First gives you a clear, actionable framework for climbing out — not by fixing your spouse, but by leading yourself.”
The complete framework behind 775+ episodes and 20+ years of clinical work — differentiation, self-validated intimacy, and the Go First principle — in one place. Not just what to do, but why it works and what it costs.
- The differentiation framework that changes how you see every relationship
- Why self-validated intimacy is the key to desire that lasts
- What it actually costs to go first — and why it’s worth it
- How one person’s growth changes the entire dynamic
