This is a popular coaching tool to use when looking at your mindset.

It also works with relationships.
Above the line: Ownership, Accept and Responsibility.
Taking ownership, accepting and taking responsibility for your attitude and actions.
Below the line: Blame, Excuses and Denial.
Not taking responsibility, not accepting your responsibilities and actions, and blaming others.
Above the line is the mindset of champions – Row your boat where YOU want it to go. This is growing up in marriage!
Below the line is the victim mentality – Make your bed and lie in it.
Where are you?
Above the line or below it?