• Communication and Blame, Part 2

    Part two of my conversation with Denis Merkas of MELT, Couples Massage Courses. “We don’t fight about things… we fight about meanings of things” We’re talking about arguments and all…

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  • The Language Of Sex, Part 1

    I had the chance to have a conversation with Denis Merkas, the founder of MELT, Couples Massage Courses. He came all the way to Texas to get some answers for…

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  • Growing Up In Marriage

    This past weekend I had the chance to speak at Freedom Church Los Alamos. It’s so great to be among real people – who love God – and are bringing…

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  • Live Dangerously in Marriage

    “Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure. Life is either a daring adventure or nothing.” ~ Helen Keller Creating intimacy between you and another person…

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  • What If Your Story Changes?

    “Hey babe, what if next summer we set off on an adventure as a family and travel around the country in an RV for a year or two?” “I could…

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  • Too Busy?

    Meet the All-American family: a house in the suburbs, nice cars, 2.5 kids, both parents working, kids on a team for soccer, baseball, dance, quite a bit of debt on…

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  • What If You're Wrong?

    Do you have seasons or years of your life that you look back on and wonder “Who is that person?” I can’t believe I used to do that, think that,…

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  • Let's Talk About Sex, Baby

    Sex is an important aspect of most every marriage. Your sexuality plays a major role in life. It influences how you dress, act, and interact with others around you. It’s…

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  • Sexual Desire Differences, What If There's Nothing Going Wrong?

    Are you the high desire or the low desire spouse when it comes to sex? Have desire differences created problems in your marriage? Sooner or later, most couples experience problems…

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  • The Paradox of Getting More Done

    I used to be a lot like you. I had huge to-do lists, ran myself ragged, and worried endlessly how I was ever going to get everything accomplished because man,…

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