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Ask The Readers: What Exactly Is A Complaint?

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A few days ago there was a post encouraging you to join in a 21-day complaint free marriage experiment. Shortly after this post, I received this email…

Hi Corey-
I want to challenge you to rethink your definitions of complaint and criticizing. I believe that a clear distinction between the meanings of the two words may go a long way toward creating a successful outcome in the 21 day challenge.

The reader continues the email with a few of their definitions for the two words, which got me thinking – why not open this up for further discussion.
So this week’s ask the readers question:
What exactly is a complaint? Criticism?
And are there healthy complaints? Criticisms?
Give your definitions in the comments. I’m looking forward to the discussion.

Dr. Corey Allan
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Dr. Corey Allan

Corey Allan, PhD, LMFT

Marriage therapist, author, and host of Sexy Marriage Radio since 2012. 20+ years in private practice working with couples and individuals. Differentiation-based approach. Remote sessions worldwide.

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