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How much money makes you happy?

happyDo you earn enough money to be happy?

According to a study from Gallup, earning $75,000 a year is a magic income level in America.

As salaries increased for the 450,000 people surveyed, the day-to-day level of happiness rose as well – until it reached a plateau at $75,000.

Does this mean a person earning $150,000 isn’t any happier than a person earning $75,000?

In both cases, the general day-to-day happiness or contentment was similar – but those who made more than $75,000 were more satisfied with their general position or status in the world.

“Giving people more income beyond 75K is not going to do much for their daily mood . . . but it is going to make them feel they have a better life.” ~ Angus Deaton, researcher

Working hard and earning a great salary is fine. The challenge comes in learning how to be content with what you have in every situation.

Contentment doesn’t mean being lazy or complacent.

It means finding the value in the things you have without feeling like you need to upgrade to make yourself feel better.

Remember, happiness is fleeting at best.

No matter what salary situation you find yourself in, be careful not to rely on happiness more than you rely on the joy that can be found in the moment.

In other words … remember the strawberries.

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Peaceful Simplicity

Whatever the tasks, do them slowly
with ease,
in mindfulness,
so not do any tasks with the goal
of getting them over with.
Resolve to each job in a relaxed way,
with all your attention.

- Thich Nhat Hanh, Zen Master

In our daily lives, we often rush through tasks, trying to get them done, trying to finish as much as we can each day, speeding along in our cars to our next destination, rushing to do what we need to do there, and then leaving so that we can speed to our next destination.

Unfortunately, it’s often not until we get to our final destination that we realize what madness this all is.

At the end of the day, we’re often exhausted and stressed out from the grind and the chaos and the busy-ness of the day. We don’t have time for what’s important to us, for what we really want to be doing, for spending time with loved ones, for doing things we’re passionate about.

And yet, it doesn’t have to be that way. It’s possible to live a simpler life, one where you enjoy each activity, where you are present in everything (or most things) you do, where you are content rather than rushing to finish things.

If that appeals to you, let’s take a look at some suggestions for living a simple, peaceful, content life:

  1. What’s important. First, take a step back and think about what’s important to you. What do you really want to be doing, who do you want to spend your time with, what do you want to accomplish with your work? Make a short list of 4-5 things for your life, 4-5 people you want to spend time with, 4-5 things you’d like to accomplish at work
  2. Examine your commitments. A big part of the problem is that our lives are way too full. We can’t possibly do everything we have committed to doing, and we certainly can’t enjoy it if we’re trying to do everything. Accept that you can’t do everything, know that you want to do what’s important to you, and try to eliminate the commitments that aren’t as important.
  3. Do less each day. Don’t fill your day up with things to do. You will end up rushing to do them all. If you normally try (and fail) to do 7-10 things, do 3 important ones instead (with 3 more smaller items to do if you get those three done). This will give you time to do what you need to do, and not rush.
  4. Leave space between tasks or appointments. Another mistake is trying to schedule things back-to-back. This leaves no cushion in case things take longer than we planned (which they always do), and it also gives us a feeling of being rushed and stressed throughout the day. Instead, leave a good-sized gap between your appointments or tasks, allowing you to focus more on each one, and have a transition time between them.
  5. Eliminate as much as possible from your to-do list. You can’t do everything on your to-do list. Even if you could, more things will come up. As much as you can, simplify your to-do list down to the essentials. This allows you to rush less and focus more on what’s important.
  6. Now, slow down and enjoy every task. Whatever you’re doing, whether it’s a work task or taking a shower or brushing your teeth or cooking dinner or driving to work, slow down. Try to enjoy whatever you’re doing. Try to pay attention, instead of thinking about other things. Be in the moment. This isn’t easy, as you will often forget. But find a way to remind yourself. Unless the task involves actual pain, there isn’t anything that can’t be enjoyable if you give it the proper attention.
  7. Single-task. Make this a mantra. Do one thing at a time, and do it well.
  8. Eat slower. This is just a more specific application of Tip #6, but it’s something we do every day, so it deserves special attention.
  9. Drive slower. Another application of the same principle, driving is something we do that’s often mindless and rushed. Instead, slow down and enjoy the journey.
  10. Eliminate stress. Find the stressors in your life, and find ways to eliminate them.
  11. Practice enoughness. All you really need is … enough.
  12. Create time for solitude. In addition to slowing down and enjoying the tasks we do, and doing less of them, it’s also important to just have some time to yourself.
  13. Do nothing. Sometimes, it’s good to forget about doing things, and do nothing. Here’s more.
  14. Sprinkle simple pleasures throughout your day. Knowing what your simple pleasures are, and putting a few of them in each day, can go a long way to making life more enjoyable.
  15. Practice being present. You can practice being in the moment at any time during the day. Here’s how.
  16. Find inspirations. Learn from the best. What stirs something deep inside you?
  17. Make frugality an enjoyable thing too. Instead of delayed gratification, don’t forget to enjoy life now while saving for later.
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Taken and adapted from Zen Habits

Happy Anniversary

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While Simple Marriage is not a “personal diary” blog — today is a big day.

It was 20 years ago today that we began our journey together as husband and wife.

And I can safely say Pam, I love you more today than I did then.

I feel like we’ve only scratched the surface.

Here’s to all that is to come!

 

Simplify Your Beauty Routine

Post written by fashion and motherhood columnist Sherri Dickens of Edit by Lauren.

I know what you’re thinking. “Sherri, this is a marriage blog. Why do I need to worry about my beauty routine? Aren’t you going to talk to us about commitment? Or being better listeners? Or something like that?”

Well, um, no. Because those are things I’m still learning about. Beauty products, on the other hand….I’m pretty well-versed in those.

Listen, I know my husband loves me. Even when he comes home and encounters Sweatpants and No Makeup Sherri. (Clearly, he is blind.) But, I also happen to know that he is attracted to Confident Sherri. And Confident Sherri tends to show up when I’ve made at least a tiny bit of effort on my appearance.

(Disclaimer: I’m not saying Sweatpants Sherri isn’t also Confident. But she’s far more likely to be laying on the couch, watching bad TV, than worrying about her confidence level. Let’s be honest.)

As women, we’re all busy. We’re constantly pulled in different directions; between husbands, children, jobs, and other commitments. We get tired and overwhelmed, and don’t have a whole lot of energy left over to focus on ourselves.

But, ladies. I’ve cheated the system. I have figured out an easy way to look like one of “them.” You know the “them” I’m talking about: those perfectly pulled together women, who look completely airbrushed, AND somehow manage to rock the perfect smoky eye.

When I’m overwhelmed and stressed out, Sweatpants Sherri makes an appearance far more often than Confident Sherri. But it doesn’t have to be that way anymore. I’ve found three products that will give you that super rested, pulled-together look in under a minute.

I’m nice like that.

First up, my solution for tired eyes. I wake up almost every morning with HUGE bags under my eyes, whether I slept for 2 hours or 10. If you have a similar problem, then quickly swipe on this little gem:

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Garnier Fructis Anti-Puff Eye Roller

Next up, my secret weapon…..

If you’re looking for a miracle, you’ve found it.  Smashbox’s Photo Finish will give you that airbrushed, flawless look that you see in magazines. It fills in lines and wrinkles, and makes your face generally feel like velvet.  It’ll probably also make your dreams come true.

Maybe.

Put it on just after moisturizer, and THEN, layer on my third flawless face find:

There’s really not much to say about this, except that it is a wonder.  I’ve never been a huge fan of foundation, because it always felt so heavy.  But this is a fantastic alternative, that is GREAT for your skin.  LOVE.

There you have it. My favorite “look good and feel good fast” tricks. I shared mine, now I’d love to know yours!

Sweatpants Sherri needs all the help she can get.

Lighter Side: Gone Too Far

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The Practical Joke Date

Practical Joke Date

Post written by dates and romance columnist Sean Marshall of Family Rocketship.

A few years ago, when returning home from a business trip, I was really looking forward to seeing my wife, Heidi.

I moved through the airport and took the escalator down to the baggage claim.

As the lower level came into view, I saw Heidi dressed in white heels, white pants, and a white blouse, complete with a vale over her face.

She held a big sign that said, “Yes”.

I couldn’t help but start laughing.

Obviously we were already married but she was being funny by making others think she was saying yes to my marriage proposal.

As we moved to the pick up my suitcase from the baggage claim, dozens of people came up to us and congratulated us.

We giggled to ourselves with our little secret joke. I imagine most people thought we were just happy in love.

There was another couple there who we found out was starting their honeymoon. We let them in on our secret.

“We just do these things for fun”, Heidi said. The couple thought it was great.

We didn’t go straight home. We went out on a picnic and had a wonderful evening.

We’ve had many other similar dates. The end result is always fun. And that’s what it’s all about.

What is a Practical Joke Date?

Dating in marriage is to keep the romance alive. Having fun is a big part of that.

By going on what I call a “practical joke date”, you’re sure to have fun.

The goal of the practical joke date is to do something you haven’t necessarily done before and is, well, funny.

It’s not to get attention necessarily. It’s just to have a fun, memorable date.

This could be something that you do on each other (like my wife surprising me with a funny reception at the airport).

It can also be something you do together.

For example, one time we went on a double date with some friends. We were meeting them at the mall for dinner and a movie.

We decided to dress crazy by putting on completely random mismatched clothes from our closet.

We got a lot of looks walking through the mall. When we met our friends, they said it was funny and “typical” of us.

Learn More About Each Other

By planning and going on practical joke dates, you open yourselves up to learning more about each other.

Obviously it’s fun.

But doing something that’s maybe a little outside the norm allows you to see each other in a difference light.

It’s important to keep learning about each other – a vital ingredient for any successful marriage.

Outside the Box Date

Getting tired of the traditional dinner and a movie? Why not add a twist to it?

Try going dressed up as weirdos! Put some face paint on. Heck, go out as clowns!

Going on a practical joke date shakes things up.

Use your creativity to come up with something that would be fun. Make sure it’s all good-natured and that you won’t get into any real trouble.

As mentioned above, the entire goal of the practical joke date is simply to have fun.

Dating should be fun and interactive. So enjoy yourself.

Have you ever gone on any “crazy” dates?