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What does it mean to be committed to something?
Am I to give everything for the sake of my commitment?
Will I lose myself because of my commitment?
We make commitments all the time. To jobs, community, creditors, family, spouse. At the outset, these relationships begin with a commitment; but it quickly turns into something else. If we affirm the economists claim that behavior is basically driven by self interest, then we will buy into the entitlement culture that we live in. The question for most things in our lives becomes “What’s in it for me?” This question traps us in a world where the dreamer is considered a fool. The passionate artist becomes a hopeless romantic longing for love that can never be attained.
The implication of this type of world is that if you don’t come up with a good enough offer for me, I am not interested. I deserve better. I am entitled to more from you. You owe me something. If I am to care about what you have to offer, there must be a payoff.
If my commitment is conditional on your response or delivery of a promise, then it never really was a commitment. It was a deal.[Continue Reading...]