At the risk of preaching to the choir, do you want to know the secret to living longer, staying healthier, earning more money and having great sex?
Get married and stay married.
Marriage has been beat up lately in our society. It’s used as a punch-line or a political hot button whenever it serves a group’s particular purpose. The interesting thing is, on the whole, most people aren’t anti-marriage.
Simple Marriage is a big proponent of marriage (duh!). Where else can you find the best mechanism to grow-up and experience more in life than marriage? Yet research shows people are waiting longer to marry and around half of all marriages in America still end in divorce.
In spite of this, marriage offers many benefits that can’t be found anywhere else.
- Live longer. Especially men, who on average will engage in risky behavior when single. Married men live on average 10 years longer than single men. And statistically speaking, divorce is more dangerous to men than it is women. 9 out of 10 married men will live to at least 65, while only 6 out of 10 single men will. While 9 out of 10 married women make 65 and only 8 out of 10 single women will.
- Have more money. This fact is the result of more long-term plans and decision making strategies. Married couples have a different outlook on money and long-term goals than single people. The difference between the two groups rests largely in the added ingredient of commitment.
- Experience more and better sex. Research continues to show that the best place for hot sex is the marriage bed. This is due to the increased connection physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. Married couples have already made a huge investment in establishing and maintaining the sexual relationship so they often can relax and enjoy the dividends.
- Things can get better. Even in bad or high conflict marriages, divorce generally creates more problems than it solves (except when there’s abuse). These problems are often worse for the children. Divorce negatively impacts a child’s educational, emotional, financial, and psychological well-being.
Being able to “stick it out” when things are bad is good advice. 86% of unhappily married people who stayed committed and stuck with their marriage for five years reported their marriages became happier. Plus, 77% of those who rated their marriages “very unhappy” reported a change to “very happy” or “quite happy” five years later. There are natural ebbs and flows to everything, marriage is not immune.
So what is ending so many marriages? Is it boredom? Unmet needs? Unhappiness?
The answer – most people don’t like conflict and pain. In the midst of conflict, you may think your marriage will only get worse. What you fail to realize is research shows otherwise.
Don’t give up without a fight.
Marriage is more than an institution or a social convention. Marriage is personal development bootcamp.
So whether you’re married or thinking about it, listen up, marriage is not about happiness… it’s about growing up. All of life is – BUT grown ups have the most pleasure and fun!