The Slow Date

Couple at SunsetRemember speed dating?

You sit down and try to impress the person on the other side of the table in 30 seconds or less before moving on to the next person.

How effective it actually is depends on each person.

In marriage, we need to go on dates too. Obviously, we aren’t going to go out and meet other people (if you are, you probably shouldn’t be reading this blog).

But, we need to make dating a priority and since we’re married, we have plenty of time. One idea for the actual type of date to go on is what I refer to as the Slow Date.

What is the Slow Date?

Going on a slow date simply refers to going out and doing something that puts the attention on you and your spouse – not the activity.

Going to the opera or bungee jumping are great date ideas, but the purpose of the slow date is to take a break from being distracted and really get into each other.

The thinking here is that sometimes it’s really the most simple things in life that bring the most satisfaction. There’s no reason this can’t include dates.[Continue Reading...]

How to Get Along in Times of Change

Couple Communicating“Sean?”

“Yeah?”

“Just a little reminder that we’re traveling today.”

“Yeah. So?”

“Just asking you to remember that everything is going to be OK and, well, to be nice.”

Confession time: I’m not the most laidback traveler. I can get a bit, umm…let’s say, “snippy”.

When traveling, my OCD kicks into gear. I’m constantly checking if zippers are closed, passports are in the right pocket, that money is stowed away, and that we’re on schedule.

And that’s just for me!

Combine that with doing the same thing for my wife and each of my 3 kids.

Needless to say, because of the increased level of stress during travel, I’m not always the most fun person to be around, especially for my wife.[Continue Reading...]

How to Serve Your Spouse

Couple in LoveI’m fascinated watching the dynamics in other people’s marriages.

It’s interesting to see how they treat each other, how they speak to each other, and in particular, how they serve each other.

To illustrate this, let me first share with you the actions of two different men I know both with totally opposite marriages.

Both men work full time. Both have 3 kids. Both have really amazing wives. But there are a few key differences.

We’ll just call them Paul and Mitch.[Continue Reading...]

Using the “L” Word in Everyday Life

I-Love-YouLove – the “L” word.

It carries a lot of power.

When my wife and I were first dating, I really felt I loved her almost right away. But, I was too chicken to say it!

She was unlike anyone I had ever dated, but social conditioning and just plain not wanting to freak her out made me wait to say it.

One night we were hanging out at her house and I managed to squeak out, “I really loooiiiike you”. It was a combination of love and like.

I couldn’t bring myself to say the ‘L’ word just yet. Luckily, she got the point of what I was doing.

It was then that we both realized we were feeling the same way. We knew we actually loved each other but thought it was too soon to say it.[Continue Reading...]

19 Ways to Be Romantic Every Single Day

RomanceFebruary is often referred to as the month of love.

In the stores you see boxes of chocolates, stuffed animals, and red roses in full bloom.

Yes, February is a great time to think about romancing your loved one.

But what happens in March? Or the rest of the year?

Do you go back to your daily routine and forget all about the romance?

What if you could be romantic, if only in small ways, every day?

You can!

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