5 Ways a Simple Massage Can Transform Your Relationship

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This is a post from Denis Merkas of Melt, Massage for Couples

It doesn’t sound like much: a simple back rub for your partner. But actually, massage between couples can have profound and long-lasting effects on your relationship and the quality of your connection with each other.

The promise of deeper intimacy, stronger trust and even a resurgence of lovey-dovey brain chemistry are just a few compelling reasons for you to get your hands all over your sweetie, stat!

Massage is the gift that keeps on giving – I don’t know anyone who gets tired of too many massages. Our aching muscles can always do with a little TLC and who better than to pamper you with healing touch than your spouse?

Here are five incredible ways massage can work to transform your relationship:[Continue Reading...]

How To Make Your Spouse Really Listen

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This is a post from Elizabeth Davis of RelationshipsAdvice.co.

There are time that are hard in marriage.

You both have your own lives, your own problems, and your own issues. That’s normal.

What isn’t normal is when your partner switches off to your needs and emotions.

Has your partner has ever done one of these things?

  • Switches off when you start speaking and doesn’t pay attention
  • Shuts down as soon as an argument starts, like they don’t even care
  • If you have an issue or problem, they don’t seem to want to help or even understand what’s going on in your life

If so, your partner isn’t giving you the attention you may be looking for.

A relationship is about giving and receiving. If one person in the relationship isn’t giving their fair share, problems will quickly start to arise. And these problems need solving before they develop into resentments or relationship-breaking issues.[Continue Reading...]

3 Ways to Simplify Money When She Makes More

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This is a guest post from Farnoosh Torabi.

If you earn more than your husband, you’re more likely to be the primary decision-maker on money matters and take charge of things like paying bills, budgeting, saving, and planning for retirement. That’s all according to my academic survey of over 1,000 women conducted with Dr. Brad Klontz, a financial psychologist.

While that is something to be proud of, such an arrangement could be asking for trouble. After all, a sense of equity between two committed people is important, even if there’s an income disparity.

I can relate to this in my own relationship. When my husband Tim and I first got engaged and began planning our wedding, I was definitely the one who took the reins. Admittedly, I wasn’t the best at delegating but, at the same time, he felt a tad awkward offering suggestions and providing input.[Continue Reading...]

5 Ways to Help Ensure a Happy Marriage

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This is a guest post from Ken Myers.

In today’s world, people get married for a variety of reasons.

Sometimes a couple really doesn’t put into perspective just how much work could go into developing a happy marriage.

Getting married for the wrong reasons could make the experience much more difficult to obtain happiness. However, this isn’t saying that it’s impossible.

Being a couple is about unity.You’re no longer separated by complete individuality but are together as something special and unique.

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Planning the Perfect Getaway

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This is a guest post from Brandon BellYou of Weekend Getaways for Couples HQ.

Helpful Tip: Getting your perfect vacation isn’t as hard as you think.

We all know that traveling is great stress reliever and it allows you to get refreshed (like recharging your life batteries).

The ideal vacation will allow you to become more productive and will keep you sane as you go back to the real world of work and responsibilities. So it is very important for you to plan everything perfectly, or at least close to that.

Let’s face it. Planning can be a pain and the cause of many headaches. But don’t worry because this guide will help you systematize a process that you can use on this trip and future ones too. Think of it as a checklist of sorts. Below are just some tips and tricks to assist you in planning the perfect getaway.

1. Set a Budget

Money is probably the most important part of planning a vacation. Your budget can determine how great your vacation will be. Figure out what you can afford and try to plan your whole trip around it. But just because you have a small budget, it doesn’t mean that you’ll have to settle for low-quality accommodations, activities, and food. If you look hard enough you will be able to find affordable options that might just surprise you. When all else fails, postpone your big trip and try to relax at home instead until you’ve got enough saved up. No need to settle for whatever you can afford at a given time if you can just save up for something much better.

2. Book Ahead of Time

Planning ahead of time not only makes it more convenient for you, it is also cheaper. Hotels and plane tickets tend to become more expensive as the booking date approaches. So you should sit down with your partner (sooner rather than later) to find a free weekend so that you can get your airfare and accommodations for a lower price. The only downside here is that your plans can get cancelled because of emergencies or last minute commitments so make sure that you read the terms and conditions of the airline or hotel when it comes to cancellation.

3. Make an Itinerary

This might seem nerdy and uptight but having an itinerary is pretty important if you really want to make the most out of your weekend. Once you’ve decided where you’re going to go, do some research about your destination and choose which sites and attractions you want to see. The hard part is selecting time slots for each activity. You don’t have to do everything on the itinerary, you can deviate from it. The itinerary is just a guide so that you won’t waste time trying to think of what to do or where to go next.

4. Make Sure That Everyone Stays Happy (Generally Speaking)

Not all couples are the same. Some couples are like minded and will quickly agree with each other when thinking of potential activities and destinations. However, there are other couples who might be interested in different things. When planning your vacation, make sure that you and your partner will both enjoy the trip. Always check with your partner before making any big decisions like booking flights or accommodations. You should also plan your itinerary together to include activities that you will both like. If you really can’t arrive at an agreement, try to figure out a compromise that you will both be happy with. Vacations are supposed to be fun not fighting over what to do or where to go.

These are just some small tips to help you achieve that perfect vacation. You don’t have to strictly adhere to these insights. Each trip will have its own unique twist and purpose, but the fundamentals of planning remain the same.

Post written by Brandon Bell. You can find more information on vacation ideas for couples by visiting weekendgetawaysforcoupleshq.com.

Add Novelty To Your Date Night

datenightThis is a guest post from Cory Williams of Datelivery.

If you are like most couples, you seek to have regular date nights.

You may go to your favorite restaurant, double date with friends, or stay home for a movie and popcorn.

Does this sound about right?

Well, if it is, then according to researchers you are going about date night all wrong!

Studies have found that couples who simply spend quality time together are probably not doing enough to keep their relationship from becoming stale.

Although it is great that you are having regular date nights, this routine type of date night is unfortunately lacking a key ingredient … ‘novelty’.

Steering away from routine and instead making date nights novel, can build anticipation and trigger more excitement about upcoming alone time together. Likewise, having fresh date nights are a good way to reencounter that butterfly feeling you felt when you first started dating.

Here are a few tips to keep your date nights exciting and fresh.

  1. Try something new – Do something new together that neither of you have ever done before. Engaging in new activities with your partner is a great way to add some excitement into dates and into your marriage. Doing new things together also opens up room to bond and connect since you are both experiencing something new together for the first time.
  2. Rotate planning out the date nights – With the pressure of planning date night falling on one person, they may find it easiest to just implement the routine dinner and a movie. Rotating date night planning allows for each partner to not only share the responsibility, but it will surely create the element of surprise and build your mate’s anticipation.
  3. Be random – Date night doesn’t always have to be on the calendar, and it doesn’t always have to involve a plan. Take the opportunity to turn any free moment into a date. Recently, my mother randomly called me at work and asked if she could come pick up her grandson. I of course said yes. By the time I got home he was gone, and I told my wife to get dressed because we were going out. Yes it was in the middle of the week, and I had just worked 10 hours and date night was not on the calendar, but we were alone and date night seemed suitable.
  4. Think outside the box – When it comes to date night, don’t think the norm. You can turn any night alone into a date night, with a little creativity. Date night can be as simple as coming up with a themed evening and creating activities around the theme or going out for a game of bowling and creating your own rules.

As we all know, anything that becomes monotonous and routine can eventually become boring and stale. And boring and stale are two terms I doubt any couple would want to use to describe their relationship or date nights.

For me and my wife, we recognized early on in our relationship that we had to keep our date nights regular, yet fresh and fun. This actually led us to start our own business, Datelivery; in which we fully plan out date nights for couples that are unique, creative and fun; packaged and shipped out monthly.

In addition to doing these date nights we plan out for other couples, we heavily rely on the above tips in order to keep our marriage and date nights novel, fun and exciting.

Cory Williams is the co-founder of Datelivery, unique date nights, delivered right to your front door.