The Problem With Date Night

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This is a guest post from Emma Merkas of Couples Massage Courses.

We all know we should go on regular dates with our spouse, right?

The same way we know we should eat more Brussels sprouts and floss our teeth every day.

It’s good for us.

More than that, date night is actually enjoyable (for the record, so are Brussels sprouts if you pan fry them with some lemon juice and kosher salt!) but you wouldn’t know it the way some couples manage to avoid it.

The problem with date night is that we humans love the comfort of routine.

Stepping outside our little daily schedules takes a bit of effort. It’s much, much easier to just sit on the couch and watch TV than it is to plan a date night and spend quality time with your spouse.

And hey – I have nothing against sitting on the couch watching TV. My husband and I spent last night doing just that. But doing it every night is hardly the stuff of an impassioned marriage.[Continue Reading…]

5 Ways a Simple Massage Can Transform Your Relationship

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This is a post from Denis Merkas of Melt, Massage for Couples

It doesn’t sound like much: a simple back rub for your partner. But actually, massage between couples can have profound and long-lasting effects on your relationship and the quality of your connection with each other.

The promise of deeper intimacy, stronger trust and even a resurgence of lovey-dovey brain chemistry are just a few compelling reasons for you to get your hands all over your sweetie, stat!

Massage is the gift that keeps on giving – I don’t know anyone who gets tired of too many massages. Our aching muscles can always do with a little TLC and who better than to pamper you with healing touch than your spouse?

Here are five incredible ways massage can work to transform your relationship:[Continue Reading…]

How To Make Your Spouse Really Listen

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This is a post from Elizabeth Davis of RelationshipsAdvice.co.

There are time that are hard in marriage.

You both have your own lives, your own problems, and your own issues. That’s normal.

What isn’t normal is when your partner switches off to your needs and emotions.

Has your partner has ever done one of these things?

  • Switches off when you start speaking and doesn’t pay attention
  • Shuts down as soon as an argument starts, like they don’t even care
  • If you have an issue or problem, they don’t seem to want to help or even understand what’s going on in your life

If so, your partner isn’t giving you the attention you may be looking for.

A relationship is about giving and receiving. If one person in the relationship isn’t giving their fair share, problems will quickly start to arise. And these problems need solving before they develop into resentments or relationship-breaking issues.[Continue Reading…]

3 Ways to Simplify Money When She Makes More

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This is a guest post from Farnoosh Torabi.

If you earn more than your husband, you’re more likely to be the primary decision-maker on money matters and take charge of things like paying bills, budgeting, saving, and planning for retirement. That’s all according to my academic survey of over 1,000 women conducted with Dr. Brad Klontz, a financial psychologist.

While that is something to be proud of, such an arrangement could be asking for trouble. After all, a sense of equity between two committed people is important, even if there’s an income disparity.

I can relate to this in my own relationship. When my husband Tim and I first got engaged and began planning our wedding, I was definitely the one who took the reins. Admittedly, I wasn’t the best at delegating but, at the same time, he felt a tad awkward offering suggestions and providing input.[Continue Reading…]

5 Ways to Help Ensure a Happy Marriage

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This is a guest post from Ken Myers.

In today’s world, people get married for a variety of reasons.

Sometimes a couple really doesn’t put into perspective just how much work could go into developing a happy marriage.

Getting married for the wrong reasons could make the experience much more difficult to obtain happiness. However, this isn’t saying that it’s impossible.

Being a couple is about unity.You’re no longer separated by complete individuality but are together as something special and unique.

What can you do to help ensure the marriage is a happy one that lasts?[Continue Reading…]

Planning the Perfect Getaway

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This is a guest post from Brandon BellYou of Weekend Getaways for Couples HQ.

Helpful Tip: Getting your perfect vacation isn’t as hard as you think.

We all know that traveling is great stress reliever and it allows you to get refreshed (like recharging your life batteries).

The ideal vacation will allow you to become more productive and will keep you sane as you go back to the real world of work and responsibilities. So it is very important for you to plan everything perfectly, or at least close to that.

Let’s face it. Planning can be a pain and the cause of many headaches. But don’t worry because this guide will help you systematize a process that you can use on this trip and future ones too. Think of it as a checklist of sorts. Below are just some tips and tricks to assist you in planning the perfect getaway.

1. Set a Budget

Money is probably the most important part of planning a vacation. Your budget can determine how great your vacation will be. Figure out what you can afford and try to plan your whole trip around it. But just because you have a small budget, it doesn’t mean that you’ll have to settle for low-quality accommodations, activities, and food. If you look hard enough you will be able to find affordable options that might just surprise you. When all else fails, postpone your big trip and try to relax at home instead until you’ve got enough saved up. No need to settle for whatever you can afford at a given time if you can just save up for something much better.

2. Book Ahead of Time

Planning ahead of time not only makes it more convenient for you, it is also cheaper. Hotels and plane tickets tend to become more expensive as the booking date approaches. So you should sit down with your partner (sooner rather than later) to find a free weekend so that you can get your airfare and accommodations for a lower price. The only downside here is that your plans can get cancelled because of emergencies or last minute commitments so make sure that you read the terms and conditions of the airline or hotel when it comes to cancellation.

3. Make an Itinerary

This might seem nerdy and uptight but having an itinerary is pretty important if you really want to make the most out of your weekend. Once you’ve decided where you’re going to go, do some research about your destination and choose which sites and attractions you want to see. The hard part is selecting time slots for each activity. You don’t have to do everything on the itinerary, you can deviate from it. The itinerary is just a guide so that you won’t waste time trying to think of what to do or where to go next.

4. Make Sure That Everyone Stays Happy (Generally Speaking)

Not all couples are the same. Some couples are like minded and will quickly agree with each other when thinking of potential activities and destinations. However, there are other couples who might be interested in different things. When planning your vacation, make sure that you and your partner will both enjoy the trip. Always check with your partner before making any big decisions like booking flights or accommodations. You should also plan your itinerary together to include activities that you will both like. If you really can’t arrive at an agreement, try to figure out a compromise that you will both be happy with. Vacations are supposed to be fun not fighting over what to do or where to go.

These are just some small tips to help you achieve that perfect vacation. You don’t have to strictly adhere to these insights. Each trip will have its own unique twist and purpose, but the fundamentals of planning remain the same.

Post written by Brandon Bell. You can find more information on vacation ideas for couples by visiting weekendgetawaysforcoupleshq.com.