Every marriage, every relationship, is fraught with perpetual problems and issues.
It’s common that I will counsel a couple for several sessions, they reach their desired goals, and leave with renewed hope and energy for the marriage – then come back several years later still arguing about the same issues.
While each person has changed and gained (or lost) a few pounds and wrinkles, they’re still having the same argument.
Perhaps you’ve even seen this in your parent’s marriage, or in your grandparent’s. They fought about the same thing their entire life.
One of the leaders in the field of marriage research, John Gottman, states that the majority of marital conflicts are perpetual in nature. In fact, 69% of all marital problems fall into this category.
Now before this is totally deflating to you, hear me out.[Continue Reading...]