It is safe to say that each of us entered into married life believing that our love would last and the passion we felt would see us through any potential heartache and struggle.
This is what makes it so humbling when we discover that we do indeed have the capacity, if not tendency, to actually despise the one we love.
Perhaps this is why relationships present such paradoxes.
In the prior post about the dark side of married life we discussed how there is an aspect of normal marital sadism found in marriage. This produced some immediate pushback from several readers.
I get it, why in the world would we take any pleasure out of hurting someone we love? Much less, admit it.
From my vantage point, this phenomenon is more widespread than many of us would like to admit. Hence the reason it can be called normal – but don’t confuse normal as healthy. [Read more…]