It doesn’t “take two,” as the old saying goes.
It takes two to keep your marriage the same; it only takes one to change it.
When you change, the relationship changes.
Life is full of distraction.
Everywhere you look something’s vying for your attention.
Take your kids to school, ride the train to work, log onto the Internet and you’ll see things aimed at taking your money, focus, and time.
One thing about a world full of attention clutter, our brain can become numb to it so we get to where we don’t even see it. But don’t kid yourself, there’s a drawback to this numbness.
It also means we don’t really experience the other things in our life.
Human nature seems to crave routine and structure. One way we can combat distraction is create a routine. This is what is being proposed when you read those “how to create flow” or “get in the zone” type posts. But again, there’s a drawback to routine.
Routine can become so, uh, routine that days can go by and we fail to realize we’re alive.
I’m continually amazed at how we live our lives day to day. It’s as if we’re in a race to create a full life. And we are, only, this full life often plays out in a full calendar, not necessarily a deep, meaningful life with others.[Continue Reading...]
Came across some great quotes in the Simple Marriage Archives.
Grow old with me! The best is yet to be. ~ Robert Browning (1812 – 1889)
A man is seduced by what he sees, a woman by what she hears. ~ Anonymous
Smile at each other; smile at your wife, smile at your husband, smile at your children, smile at each other – it doesn’t matter who it is – and that will help you to grow up in greater love for each other. ~ Mother Teresa (1910-1997)
As the heart is warmed, so often too the body; as the spirit is loosed, so often and with laughter, the clothes fall away. ~ Anonymous
This is what marriage really means: helping one another to reach the full status of being persons, responsible and autonomous beings who do not run away from life. ~ Paul Tournier (1898-1986)
In case you’re new to our community, or even if you’ve been around for years, I’m part of a weekly show that airs new episodes each Wednesday called Sexy Marriage Radio.
Each week Shannon Ethridge and I discuss various topics and ideas that will help you make your sex life better (or perhaps come back to life).
To date, there are over two years worth of shows on Sexy Marriage Radio – many of them about how to spice things up, sort of like Spicing Things Up 101.
Today, we talk about Spicing Things Up 301!
I think you’ll like it.
From Elizabeth Gilbert in her book Committed: A Skeptic Makes Peace with Marriage
Modern Americans bring to their marriages the most over-stuffed bundle of expectations the institution has ever seen. We expect that our partner will not merely be a decent person, but will also be our soul mate, our best friend, our intellectual companion, our greatest sexual partner and our life’s complete inspiration. Nobody in human history has ever asked this much of a companion. It’s a lot to ask of one mere mortal, and the inevitable disappointments that follow such giant expectations can cripple marriages.