The Art of Contentment

growingA majority of struggle in married life is in our head.

We wonder why we can’t find time to connect with loved ones because we’re caught up in our to do lists, or struggling with an inadequacy, or striving to create a life like we see other’s living in their Facebook feed.

This struggle is normal … as it is part of the process of becoming. It’s the path to creating a more solid, flexible self. Someone who knows who they are and is comfortable in their own skin.

A great step forward in this process is to learn the art of contentment.

Contentment is not easy – it’s something that must be developed and learned over time. It’s actually more like a lifelong process of developing.

The best formula for creating contentment -[Continue Reading...]

The Science of Happy Relationships

What do we know today about happy relationships?

A lot actually.

This infographic from the happiness training app Happify sums up several important findings from studies on what makes couples happy.

For example, happy couples have 5 positive interactions for every negative one, versus the 0.8 positive interactions for every negative one that divorced couples go through.

And how about this tidbit:

When it comes to strengthening your relationship, studies show the most crucial factor is how you celebrate your partner’s good news. In one study, people who did this 3x a day for 1 week increased their happiness and felt less depressed afterwards.

Here’s to becoming happier.[Continue Reading...]

How To Choose A Shrink: Part 2

freud2If you happened to miss the initial guide, be sure to check it out.

One reader asked a few very good follow up questions based on part one. Here is an excerpt:

Finding a therapist, especially when there isn’t anything catastrophic wrong, is a challenging thing. There just seems no good way to find someone without a referral from a friend, which most people (including myself) are too uncomfortable asking for.

How do you do a phone screen? How do you know if the counseling is “working”? How long is a fair trial?

Allow me to attempt to tackle the stigma of going to counseling. [Continue Reading...]

A Handy Guide To Choosing A Shrink


When I look at the world I’m pessimistic, but when I look at people I am optimistic. ~Carl Rogers

As you may or may not know, my paying gig is as a marriage and family therapist. I’ve had a private practice in the town where I live for 12 years now specializing in working with married couples.

I’m a big advocate for the counseling profession and believe everyone can benefit from counseling at some point in their life.

Mainly due to the fact that each one of us was born into a family and every family is dysfunctional. While the degrees of dysfunction will be as varied as the families in the world, every one of them passes on their dysfunction.

That being said, there are some things you should be aware of and ask before you begin the journey into the therapy world.[Continue Reading...]

Living With Less

There are many different paths to happiness.

Society’s dominant path, at least according to advertisers, is valuing materialistic practices. Own the right items, drive the right car, live in the right house.

Put another way … product consumption is the remedy for social ills.

Enter the increasing trend of minimalism.

The core lesson from the infographic below:

We realize not only that our previous purchases haven’t brought us meaning, but that they’ve actually distracted us from what is most meaningful.

Enjoy.[Continue Reading...]